Meeting a significant other for the first time is rarely, if ever something one plans for. Imagine crossing paths time and time again with a complete stranger, totally oblivious to the complete and utter transformation a chance encounter may have on your life. Now imagine waiting all your life to finally meet this stranger to find that waiting is quite possibly the thing you’ll be doing most of for the foreseeable future. Do this and you’ll understand what it’s like to live in Grant Porter’s world.
If there’s one thing he and Hailee, his girlfriend of 5 years, are familiar with, it’s delayed gratification. The secret to their relationship? Patience. It takes a lot to keep up a strong connection when you’re in different cities, especially when the rest of your life is pulling you in several directions at once. But these two seem to have it down, so far. Grant says it’s all about planning. Knowing in advance what you want to get out of the little time you have together and then making the very most of it. Every moment counts.
Keeping a film crew on schedule and producing their best work can be a hectic, never ending challenge, but Grant handles it with style. Perhaps because he’s better at clocking out than he is about switching off. And because Hailee shares his penchant for framing every experience together as an opportunity to be creative and express the artist within, a quick scroll through their social feeds hides the fact that these two lives are lived miles apart from one another.
Again, distance is no match for determination. Together, they’ve explored the state from top to bottom, covering everything from beaches and boardwalks to valleys and vistas. Despite all the planning it takes to carve out the time, once actually together, they prefer to let their spirit carry them away. A weekend festival can just as easily easily lead to walk through nature. A few brews at a baseball game becomes a wild night of stories and laughter with new friends at a neighborhood block party. Where they end up rarely matters. They point is to follow the fun.
What results from this union is a tangible collection of memories, frozen in time, every frame a brush stroke on the canvas of their lives together. A reminder of what all the waiting is for.
Hailee and I have a unique relationship due to how much time we have spent doing long distance. A lot of people meet, date, live in the same city for a while, and then might have to face long distance later on down the road, or never at all.
We were in a weird spot, at a young age, learning to build a foundation of good communication and confidence first and foremost, and then "get to know" each other.
I love Fresno, and I feel strongly about the change occurring here and I want to be a part of it, so she understood that I was unable to relocate anytime soon.
It's like learning about anyone else in any other format of relationship, distance just forces you to basically learn to fly while falling, it's tough.
That puts us both in a place where we could easily miss out on rare opportunities to enjoy things together that normal people would just be able to do naturally because it's a holiday or after hours.
We just want to have fun, no matter what. If we aren't enjoying life together, we shouldn't be together, and so far that's kind of just how we've been making it happen.